SHAM MARRIAGE
A sham
marriage or fake marriage is a marriage
of convenience entered
into with the intent of deceiving public officials or society about
its purpose. Arranging or entering into such a marriage to deceive
public officials is itself a separate violation of the law of some
countries.
ARRANGED MARRIAGE
In
an arranged marriage, the bride and groom are selected by a
third party. Arranged marriages are usually seen in
Indian, Southeast Asian and African cultures, especially among
royalty, and are usually set up by the parents or an older family
member. In many communities, priests or religious leaders as well as
relatives or family friends play a major role in matchmaking. Mains
rasons of arranged marriages are: religion, caste, reputation or
horoscope.
GETTING HITCHED FOR BENEFITS
In
the Marine Corps many soldiers decide
to marry for the sake of additional income and benefits. Those
soliders who engage in these agreements are entitled to additional
monies. Once they provide a valid marriage license, they’re
eligible for the Basic Allowance for Housing, a monthly sum that is
added to their salaries. Depending on the cost of living, the sum is
between $1,100 up to $2,000 per. You can get as well around $350 per
month for food, as married individuals aren’t expected to eat in
the mess halls. Plus, an additional $250 per month was afforded for a
hardship cost the couple were eligible for. While
some Marines are caught trying to play the system, others go
undetected, opening them up to unfettered access to a massive
benefits package that is meant for individuals who enter into
legitimate marriages.
VISA
PURPOSE
A
lot of sham marriages are arranged to allow people to stay in the
country legally and that is the major reason people try to arrange
these and why people are willing to act illegally to do so.
Ms
Liu and Mr Xu used their permanent residency to obtain Australian
citizenship and build a property empire worth $40 million by the
mid-1990s. Ms Liu obtained permanent Australian residency after she
and her then Chinese boyfriend and business partner, Harry Xu,
married two young Australians in a bogus arrangement.
In
Unitated Statetes a lot of people get married to get a Green Card.
24-year-old Yuliya Kalinina turned to the Internet in The Russian
national living in Los Angeles wrote in an ad placed on the
Craigslist
website: "Green Card Marriage -- Will pay $300/month. Total
$15,000," "This is strictly platonic business offer, sex
not involved. Just in case any would-be Romeos weren't taking the
hint, she added, "NOT required to live together." She made
it absolutely clear what she was looking for in a relationship.
If
someone gets caught on fake marriage, the defendants face up to five
years in prison and a $250,000 fine on the Conspiracy charge. Up to
five years in prison and a $250,000 fine on each of the marriage
fraud and false statement counts, and up to 10 years in prison and a
$250,000 fine on the False Application count.
MARRIED
JUST FOR MONEY AND ATTENTION
Kim
Kardashian married NBA star Kris Humphries and got divorced just 72
days after marrying. The 31-year-old reality TV star said she "had
hoped this marriage was forever, but sometimes things don't work out
as planned." But many media outlets it was a scam for money.
The
four-hour TV special that aired on E! and the rights to wedding
photos earned the pair $18 million, which works out to about $250,000
per day of marriage.
A
HOLLYWOOD MARRIAGE
A Hollywood
marriage originally
meant a glamorous high society marriage between celebrities involved
in the U.S.
film industry;
the word "Hollywood"
is often used to represent the US film industry. However, the term
has grown to also have strong negative connotations of a marriage
that is of short duration and quickly ends
in separation or divorce. The
term developed the negative connotations fairly early; by the 1930s,
a "Hollywood marriage" was a marriage both glamorous and
short-lived. This
connotation may also have related, at times, to moral
panics over
Hollywood's influence on the culture.
Famous
hollywod marriages:
Britney
Spears and
Jason Allen Alexander: Marriage annulled 56 hours after marrying
Sinéad
O'Connor and
Barry Herridge: Married for 16 days.
Nicolas
Cage and Lisa
Marie Presley:
Married for less than four months
A
LEVANDER MARRIAGE
A lavender
marriage is
a type of male-female marriage
of convenience in
which the couple are not both heterosexual and conceal
the homosexual or bisexual orientation
of one or both spouses. In gay
slang,
the spouse whose presence conceals the other's sexual orientation is
referred to as a "beard".
enter
into marriages
of convenience to
protect their public reputations and preserve their careers.
For e.g. Actor Rock
Hudson,
who, under movie studio pressure and worried about rumors
that Confidential magazine
was planning to expose his homosexuality, married Phyllis
Gates,
a young woman who worked for Hudson's agent.
Would
you get married to someone you didn't intend to stay with? Would you decide to sham marriage if you could earn a quarter of a million dollars
per day? Do you know any other examples of fake marriages?
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Sometimes it comes to my mind such thoughts: Why am I studying so hard when I could be a someone's wife who is really rich? Probably it would be a really old man therefore there are only my thoughts in my mind. I never say this loudly. :) For sure in other parts of the this world there are ladies who think in such way. The only way to do this is making a sham marriage with rich man. They are going to count a big drop after a few years of marriage. I know a lot of such situations from tv, internet. But different reason of making a sham marriage may be getting a nationality.
ReplyDeleteTemporary marriage with anybody is definitely bad idea for me. I can understand individual tragedy and bad relationship after few years between two people. Perhaps sometimes divorce is only way. Different story is when somebody decide to get married without sufficient knowledge and confidence in the future spouse. This is the same how to plan a divorce at very beginning in case if something will break in the future.
ReplyDelete“Would you decide to sham marriage if you could earn a quarter of a million dollars per day.”
I think that it is a good question for barriers in ours life. If I agree I will move my independence barrier closer to trade me and my privacy. For me it is like prostitution, even if sex is not part of it.
I remember when this whole thing was valid for the Poles who desperately traveled to the USA, Germany or UK. I was a kid but I did not forget my parents comments about other people, sometimes Our former neighbors, who in the early 90's went abroad to earn money. Sometimes they also tried to legalize their stay by a fake marriage, sometimes to do that they need to perform a fake divorce first in Poland. For me always when you can’t live as you want is tragedy. It start when adult children must live in home with parents and continue when you explain all your life decisions that you have to do something, you do not want to, but still do it because it is easier.
Temporary marriage or mariage with person who I don't know-it isn't for me. I don't heard about that situations in reality, only in a films. However, it is true that in for example in India your parents chose a previous housband for you. But this is associated with tradition. I don't understand people who have a mariage for a document to have a documents to live for example in another country. Tou are belongig to this person in legally ant it makes me frightening.
ReplyDeleteNowadays, marriage for money and attention isn't something new. However it still suprises many people. They don't understand how someone can married other person without love and attachment. Generally it is among celebrities, but not only. A few years ago Visa was the purpose. We heard a lot about using someone else to get Visa. It was the only reason to get married. People look for benefits. They don't think that their lack of selflessness is something bad.
ReplyDeleteI think sham marriage isn't something new. Moreover I can say that in middleage there was much more marriage arranging because of reputiation and money. Now we have more possibilitys to get benefits. I can understand this kind of motivation, but I don't approve it. Also it is hard to control people who get marriage to get a visa. In my opinion people should do this for love.
ReplyDeleteIn case of visa or citizenship the sham marriage is sometimes the only way to get better live, sad but true. But in case of marriage for many is for me is reason for shame, but it’s old like word tradition for someone. This case of “fun” is totally not for me.
ReplyDeleteA lot of people get married without love. It is caused of course money. I heard in TV couple years ago about weddings between foreigners. One person pay another to marry and get citizenship another country. Probably that dealings continues to this day. In world of celebrities are many weddings not out of love but for publicity. Many people get married because they have a children even if they don’t love each other.
ReplyDeleteI do know about such issues, but after the start I was hoping fore something more about current state of arranged marige. I will only point out that USA is making it almost imposible to get visa by legal matters. The only person I know that got his visa under eight months got it probably only because he passed all the tests and got offer for a full time job at the Google and they got it for him themselves. If someone can actually make a full out of USA immigration departnment, I will neither judge nor condemn him/her for what they did.
ReplyDeleteOther cases that were pointed out don't interest me in even most slightest way, therefore I have nothing to say about them.
I think a sham marriage is always a mistake. For me, a marriage should be thought as a demonstration of love, not as a medium to obtain benefits. I even think marriage is not absolutely necessary, I think I could live with my couple for long time (even all life) without marry him.
ReplyDeleteI can't understand people who marry for money, or parents who force their children to marry with someone, but I can understand sham marriages made for obtain a visa, but I think I wouldn't do it.
I can't imagine that I could ever get sham married to someone who I don't love, and with whom I don't want to live. Marriage is taken in the presence of family and witnesses, before God. I'd feel bad about lying to God and others. I admire people who ever got married without love, the will of the parents, for profit. I think that even if someone wanted me to pay for a fictitious marriage, there I wouldn't agree. I don't know any examples of fake marriages.
ReplyDeleteI think that no one is surprise -the sham marriage isn’t something unfamiliar. There are many people who are prone to such marriages, but the other hand a lot of people can’t understand how someone can married other person without love. For me, the main reason why people do such think is money, fame, or as in the case of a visa opportunity to live in another better country .Personally I wish to marry a man I love, and I’m against sham marriage. But, it is only personal decision.
ReplyDeleteAs far as I know sham marriages were popular in medieval, especially in royal families. I personally would never agree to such marriage, I prefer to achieve things I want in legal way.
ReplyDeleteWould I decide to sham marriage if I could earn a quarter of a million dollars per day? Of course I would! I think that there is nothing wrong in such marriages. If both sides are aware of what they are doing it, why not? I also think that there is nothing wrong in marrying for a visa, but as I said, it is important that both of them were aware of this fact.
ReplyDeleteHowever if someone is marrying somebody for visa or for money by cheting this person this is just a fraud.
I my opinion arranged marriages when one or both sides are forced get married it’s sick. It should be forbidden. Marriage is not just a simple relationship. It’s sharing almost every part of life with second person. If people just do not fit with each other it can be hell for both of them. Often like in Saudi Arabia one person is on the worst side. In countries like this women cannot decide of themselves. When they want to leave the country they need permission from husband or sometimes their son.
ReplyDeleteWhen it comes to marriages out of convince some part of me understands it. If you cannot have love then maybe you can grow to respect someone and learn to live with him without passionate love?
Definietly I would not get married to someone I didn't intend to stay with. I wouldn't decide to sham marriage to get a quarter of a million dollars per day. I know I wouldn't feel allright with that and wouldn't be pround of it. I would be proud of earning money like that on my own ;].
ReplyDeleteI don't know anyone personal, who decided to get fake married. To me it is like from celebrity world.
Would you get married to someone you didn't intend to stay with?
ReplyDelete- Yes, marriage thing doesn't mean a lot for me. Nowadays you can get married and next day you can get divorced.
Would you decide to sham marriage if you could earn a quarter of a million dollars per day?
- Who wouldn't? You can always get divorced.
Do you know any other examples of fake marriages?
- Nope. No ideas.
I think a civil marriage is only a declaration and sheet of paper. I think when a half of couple feel love to second half and the same in another direction, there is a reason to get real marrige in church not only in office. I can't imagine situation whwrw I'm in a marriage with someone who I don't love, so my answer to one of some question is obvious. The idea with Green Card is something what I will do for someone but she would comply.
ReplyDeleteConnecting traditionally arranged marriage with marriages for benefits is little abuse for me. Arranged marriage were common quite lately. And in other situations? That's their life, these people can do, what they want. If their situation is bad, sometimes only marriage can change it. I would't do that, but I understand people needed to get visa or to get to another country. Marriages for benefits? People are stupid and greedy. And that is not the worst example.
ReplyDeleteI would never marriage someone only of the caluculating. It is sick for me to abuse it instrumentally. And it is all I want to say in this topic.
ReplyDeleteThe sham marriage issue is very popular among immigrants. For examply many people from somewhat poorer countries want to stay in Poland or European Union and use of this way. It's very crafty, but in my opinion also immoral. Especially in situation when the most reason of sham marriage are money. I hope that will never have a similar dilemma.
ReplyDeleteIn economy we have a lot of ex ample of shame marriage, is a good way to make a easy many and to do a business. For small group of people love it isn’t a reason to marriage, we have a lot of example from a history. Immigrants from poor countries organize that marriage because they want be a citizen of riches country. I understand that trend, it is better for their future live.
ReplyDeleteThe idea of sham marriages is as old as the world itself. Many people ,especially in the past, were getting married for some purposes not connected with love or even some pleasant emotions, but for money, family issues/connections, to maintain power and so on. In most cases the bride and the groom do not know each other well and it was a decision made beyond them. Of course it is nothing to approve, but what is sad, in many countries (Arabic e.g.) it is still in practice and people freedom is abused greatly. I hope changes in this matter will arise abruptly.
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ReplyDeleteI wouldn't get married to someone, with whom I wouldn’t want to live for all of my life. Honestly, I think that it's more probable that I would be a single than I would have a relationship with a man who is not the right person for me.
I also don't want to get married to someone for money.
Well, as for me marriage is formalizing love between man and woman, so marriage without love is completly unreasonable. Money and other benefits can't make your decision. If you marry someone - you have to know that's the person, not the money or fame. In my opinion marrying someone because of any other thing than love is just lying to someone and to yourself.
ReplyDeleteA sham marriage shows how little mean words : love, trust, support.Which is the basis of true marriage.
ReplyDeleteIn modern times more and more population becomes a model of marriages that will bring material benefits or social.
Unfortunately we still have marry in many laws are prohibited, but in Islamic cultures is "daily bread" is a relationship adult male with underage girls.
Personally for me it is not accepted, because children need time to grow emotionally.
I've never would get married to someone I didn't intend to stay. Even if i could earn a quarter of a million dollars per day. I'm loyal to my fiancée and so much money can't break me.
ReplyDeleteI think I could not Get married with someone who I don`t know and I don`t love. It`s really terrify for me! Even if I could earn a lots of money because of it, I won`t decide do this. It`s very unfair and not responsible. Unfortunately I know some examples of fake mistakes – I must say that these histories didn`t end well.
ReplyDeleteI could marry someone for money or to help him, because I don't attach to the institution of marriage. One thing that scary me is the possibility of jail and fine.
ReplyDeleteI think that government should not interfere into someones private life.
It's our business who are we getting married.
The most important thing for me is: who I'm living with and who is beside me. Marriage is not important for me.
I believe I would never get married to someone I do not love or do not know at all. Be someone's wife only for financial benefits? I am not materialist. It's obvious, money improve our lives, but it does not always bring happiness. I can only imagine this situation - marriage for money - in case that members of my close famiy would be really sick and need some very expensive surgeries. But generally speaking, I would raher have a beautiful relationship with a man who loves me, with whom I wanna spend my life.
ReplyDeleteI couldn't get married to someone, who I don't love, even if there would be many benefits. It's my morality and there is anything, which could change my decision. True feelings are more worth for me than money. I want to be happy in my life, not rich. Happiness means for me good relationship, family, health, friends...They are on the first place, so I could really enjoy money later. Spending them can give us a pleasure, but we usually also want to share our joy with others. A marriage is too serious life decision to waste it, therefore we shouldn't think only about benefits. I don't know any example of a fake marriage or I don't remember now. However I think there are many of them in some arabic countries, where is Islam.
ReplyDeleteI think that it is embarrassing to get married to someone for money. It is too big decision.If we get marrind to someone who we do not love,we will be unhappy sooner or later. Money is not everything.One day we can have money and tomorrow we can be on a dole. Good relationship should be much important,because it bring us happiness and that comfort that we have support from someone
ReplyDeleteWould you decide to sham marriage if you could earn a quarter of a million dollars per day? I think I wouldn't do that. But I think it can be really good option for people who want to be famous. I think it impossible for usual people. In my opinion people who get marry for money are really stupid and don't have estimete to themselves. It is disgusting when young girl get marry with oldman only for money.
ReplyDeleteNowadays a lot of people get married without love, but for me it is too crazy. I couldn't get married to someone, who I don't love even if someone wanted me to pay for a fictitious marriage. I don't know anyone personal, who decided to get fake married.
ReplyDeleteI would never get married someone only for money. I wouldn’t want to live for all of my life with the person who I don't love. I prefer be a single than I would have a relationship with a man who is not appropriate person for me. I think that if you want to be happy in the future you have to be with somebody who you love. People who marry someone only for money are probably overwhelming or unprincipled.
ReplyDeleteI'd rather never marry to someone I don't intend to stay and live with. The only reason why I could to it would be a war, and only if that would be the only way to save life.
ReplyDeleteNo, I prefer other, more legal and having more sense solutions.
In Islam it's allowed to get married for a day, a week or another determined period of time, the marriage is allowed even if the guy has a wife already. For woman it's needed f.e. when she wants to go to Mecca but has no male attendant. Then she gets married for the time of pilgrimage.
It is extremely sad that people get married for money or fame. But on the other hand those old rich men are probably happy that they can spend their time with young beautiful ladies and the do not care that they have to pay for it. Acually, I think that we should not judge anyone. When someone does not have money to take care of his children, marriage for visa and getting additional money seems to be a good idea. For sure, I am not a really big fan of marriage even when it is real.
ReplyDeleteHonestly, I have never considered about getting married for money or some kind of shame or fake marriage because for me the main reason to get married is love. I wouldn't get married someone who I don't love. I can't imagine such situation. Personally, I don't know the person who get married for the money, but of course I realize that such things are happening not only in the movies. Unfortunately! It is very sad that people get married because of the material benefits not feelings.
ReplyDeleteI'm not strict traditionalist but I'm afraid that I will never understand the idea of marriages for material benefits. I also couldn't imagine myself in a situation, when someone arranges my marriage. It should be everyone's own choice with who we want to spend our life. I can only understand people, who get married in order to get visa, because it's sometimes the only way of normal life for them.
ReplyDeleteWell it's hard question if we would marry someone only for money. Atm everyone will say "no" because "we are so proud". But in my opinion most people here would do this because it makes life more comfortable. Personally I don't know what would I do, because probably I won't be in this kind of situation ever.
ReplyDeleteI think that I can't get married to someone I didn't intend to stay with. It geting maried for me excludes being with someone unfamiliar. For me the most important is to feel goog in situation that i am. So I can't decide to get maried even when someone propose to paid me for it. The money don't make me happy and satisfied.
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ReplyDeleteI can't imagine that I could be with someone without any feelings.. Of course, I will never know what might become in the future. But I think I don't understand the idea like this, because it inconsistent with my beliefs. This is so controversial topic in mamy ways.
ReplyDeleteNow, I don't think that I would agree at something like this.
Unfortunately, I do not know of any other examples. At least, nothing comes to my mind.
I do not understand the idea of sham marriage. For me marriage is something for life. I wouldn't like to marry a man who I don't know and feel nothing for. However, I would agree for sham marriage if my life or life of my family memeber was in danger and that was the only way to protect it (I can't think of any plausible situation like this now, but it may happen for example on the war).
ReplyDeleteI do not care much about what celebrities do, if they have no self-respect and sell their private life then why should I bother? Usually, their actions have no influence on average person's life. The real problem are sham marriages arranged to get citizenship. They irritate me not because such people get money and other things that they don't deserve. The real reason I hate the idea of this kind of marriage is the fact that such people make it far more difficult to get marry for people who really want to be together - because of those liars honest intermarriages are under surveillance. It is not fair.
I hope I will never be so desperate that I will have to consider getting married just for money. I imagine that people who decided to do that in most cases are in a very difficult financial situation and that is what pushes them to make that step.
ReplyDeleteCelebrities marriages which last just a few days or weeks are a very sad phenomena. Of course every one can get lost in life and then make a very bad decision, but the numerous cases marriages of that kind make think that this is a one of these Hollywood "booms" - as boom for having kids or adopting kids. I'm a romantic person and I simply prefer if marriage still is something durable and sacred and not a joke.
Getting married for money is totally immoral. Marriage is something created by a woman and a man who loves each other. It is based on feelings. I really don't understand people who accept it and do it... There are a lot of different ways to get money...
ReplyDeleteIf I were a poor refuge from third world country, I would do probably more than that. I would do that tomorrow even for $ 125.000. Hook me up!! I know few people who did that thing to that for documents.
ReplyDeleteI don't want any marriage, even if it's fake or not, but if it's true that I would earn so much money hmmm... maybe (depends on situation and a person) I would do that. The vision of millions makes everything better. But all in all sham marriages are strange for me, cos you can "study" someone else without it.
ReplyDeleteI'm not planning marriage, so I think that I will definitely not marry anyone, esspecially person with who I'm not planning to stay. But earning a lot of money just because you have marriage sound great. But in Poland it is no common, and I won't do it. it's great idea for some other ladies. Sometimes people get marriage to get citizenship, or if somebody is gay, and he is still asking where is your wife it's great idea. I don't know any other fake marriages.
ReplyDeleteI would never get married to person, that i dont intend to stay with or i dont love. I also would never get sham marriage to earn money, becouse for me, love is more important than money. Friend of mine with her boyfriend at the begining of their relation ship has already decided with him, when they will break up, and they did. I dont know any fake marriages or anything.
ReplyDeleteDo you know any other examples of fake marriages?
Well.. I can agree with lavender marriage, but this 'parents' mustn't have children. I think child should have mother and father. If he or she has two fathers or two mothers, he or she won't bring up in proper way. Marriage is really important for me, celebrities are stupied if they want to marriage only for money. Arranged marriage isn't in line with my truth and my religion. I think this kind of marriage should be forbidden. Hollywood marriage is the most truly for me :) I want to have sumptuous marriage but not for money :)
ReplyDeleteI don’t think so that I can get someone I didn't intend to stay with. I am a Catholic and marriage is an important sacrament for me. I have never though that I could change my partner after marriage. On the same time I do not criticize couple which get divorced, sometimes something just doesn’t work in the proper way but getting marriage and thinking that it is only for a moment is a misunderstanding for me. A quarter of a million dollars per day seems to be very nice price but in this world nothing is for free so I don’t want to think about what this kind of deal will include. I have heard about sisters who have to get marriage to inherit big amount of money after their grandfather and they had found some short term husbands.
ReplyDeleteNo I would never marry a person which I haven't love, for any price. Discussing moral matters "for how much" makes people who agree on that some kind of prostitutes.
ReplyDeleteNo I don't know examples but I heard a lot of that procedure in Western countries. I think it is morally very bad and sad, but shows decadency of today's Western culture.
For me marriage is very important and serious thing so I would never decide to get a fake one. Of course there are some special situations like saving person's life ( it happens if we talk for example about emigrants) and that is the only one situation when I can acceped this kinde od marriage.
ReplyDeleteI can't imagine myself doing that. I believe that marriage is a very important thing and should be done only one with the right person. Making some interests of it is not a good choice. Although different people have different opinions. As for me, I will wait for the perfect person.
ReplyDeleteWould you get married to someone you didn't intend to stay with? Would you decide to sham marriage if you could earn a quarter of a million dollars per day? Do you know any other examples of fake marriages? I think I would never get married to someone if it is fake, for me marriage is something important and we shouldn't mreat this like simple transaction. Of course money are the most common reason of fake marriages but money won't give us happy us big us real relationship do.
ReplyDeleteFor me marriage is the saint thing, one from seven sacraments, which we never use like way to easy and rich life. Using strong example I must say that for me this type of marriage is similar to prostitution. This is connected with "paid" marriage, but sometimes we can hear about situations when people decided to sham marriages only for acquire citizenship, and situation become complicated, because often these people have no choice and this is only hope for them for a normal life, so i try to understand theirs decision.
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ReplyDeleteI have always thought that marriage is something important, that it is a proof of love and loyalty. What is more, for me it is a promise which people gives each other - a promise that they will spend together the rest of their lifes, that they will always be together...
ReplyDeleteI've never wondered if sham marriage is a common issue. However, reading your presentation I came to a conclusion that there are a lot of them. It shows that nowadays there is a complete lack of values - people made from the marriage a tool which helps them meeting their needs - a lot of people think only about benefits.
A marriage is said to be a relationship between two people who are in love. It should be well-thought-out decision of your life. I’m convinced that sham marriages have nothing in common when it comes to loyalty and devotion. It’s hard to deny that money is necessary in today’s world. On the other hand, money is not the main source of happiness for most people. They regard personal relationships as more important. Despite everything, there is a great deal of marriages for well-being or visa.
ReplyDeleteI would not get married with someone only for benefits like money, green card or anything else... I always feel that I am an independant woman and I need to work for everything by hard work. Marriage would never be a goal itself. It is hard for me to imagine life with someone that you don't really love.
ReplyDeleteI do not think I will have a choice like that in my life. I am not beautiful enough to marry a billionaire and I also do not need any visas. I would probably not marry someone with whom I did not intend to stay with. I would like to marry person that is handsome and I have feelings for. In my opinion fake marriages are not bad, only if people are not lying to each other. Then I would accept marriage if I could earn money for that.
ReplyDeleteI can't imagine marring someone not for love but just for some material profits.It's not only egoistic but you sacrifice your happiness and you won't let your partner to be really happy.I can understand that many people have bad situation in their live and that is easy way to change it, but for what cost?I don't think money is worth all the emotions and ofcourse true love that you lose that way. Fortunately I don't know any other examples of fake marriages and I don't wanna know.
ReplyDeleteI can't imagine to get married to someone I didn't intend to stay with. Money is not important for me because I am brought up traditionally in the Catholic religion, so I believe in true love.
ReplyDeleteBut, unfortunately, more and more people are getting married without love, with financial reasons and also political. I'll always be denounced it because I think it's something really stupid, but sooner or later these people will realize that it was wrong.
To my mind marriage is an artificial institution so I don’t treat it emotionally. But still I can’t imagine getting married just for the benefits because if someone pay you it means he or she wants something back. I don’t know anyone who have fake marriage. I think that it isn’t popular in Poland.
ReplyDeleteI don't think that arranged marriages are always fake marriages. Maybe in our culture it's really strange, but in some countries arranged marriages are frequent and not so rarely very happy. In many cases family take into the consideration also opinion of future groom and bride. They think of love rather like about a decision, than like about some fleeting emotion.
ReplyDeleteI would never get married to someone I didn't intend to stay with even if I could earn a quarter of a million dollars per day, and I don't understand people who do that.
I have an idealistic vision of marriage. I think that it is important decision for whole life and people who want to marry should good think it over. In my opinion good marriages are necessary to create good families. People have to be responsible of their decisions.
ReplyDeleteI never would want to have sham marriage. Marriage is too important worth for me.
If I wanted to marry I would do it only for love, not for money. I can't imagine living with person who I am not emotionally related to. Being married to improper person would be a horror. I know that it is always risk to choose wrong person, but decision like this should be taken for right reasons.
ReplyDeleteWould I get married to someone I didn't intend to stay with? It sounds really silly to me, why would I do such a horrible thing? Even if I could earn a quarter of a million dollars per day, I would feel just like a prostitute doing that. I don't know any examples of fake marriages, because it's just stupid and irritating issue in which I'm not interested, just like a "real" marriage. I'm young right now and I'm lucky to live in a country where the decision is up to me. And, probably just like the rest of the world, I will never face an opportunity of having a marriage for some billions in cash.
ReplyDeleteOf course I would marry anyone for that money. I don't believe in love so what could be other reason for me to marry someone if not that. I would really have to hate this person to give up such a opportunity and not get married.
ReplyDeleteI am not a 'traditional' type of person and marriage isn't such a big deal for me. If I could help someone just by marrying her why not? It's quite a normal thing. Marriage for money? If I would get quarter of million per day I could even marry another dude. Who woudn't take such an easy money? :)
ReplyDeleteI strongly believe that people should married when they want it, and when they love each other. Unfortunately, there are few countries where people are getting marriage not because of love but because of their parent’s will. Nowadays people also getting married to get the money from the country. I think that it is disgusting. People should not cheat their country like that.
ReplyDeleteIt is really thoughtless to walk down the aisle because of better property, status or fame. These days it is hard to imagine Hollywood stars without some scandals connected with getting married. But this problem increases also among ordinary people. Of course, I wouldn't be able to say "yes" to person who I didn't love. Why? Even if I had a bad situation I wouldn't choose my husband-to-be because of wealth or popularity. Money doesn't give fortune on that way! Of course, the devil's in the detail and you can look for some pros of having lots of money. Widen perspectives, some improvements, lack of misfortune, every dreams can come true. But is it worth it? Somebody who choose money and refuse happiness - which is caused by relationship, feelings and emotions - makes a major mistake in its life.
ReplyDeleteA temporary marriage isn't a great option. It could bring trauma or even lack of reliance among people. These days it is so popular to get married because of the fake couple needed a Visa. Looking for improvements, benefits and pursuit of "happiness" could only ensnare and doesn't bring fortune.
A sham marriage could be a "good" way to sustain a family. You have to take a responsibility of bringing up a child and personally I know some couples who are together because of a child. It is also unhealthy because they inculcate a spirit of falsehood and show-off false outlook of human relationship.
Getting married just for money? For me it sounds quite pathetic. I can't stand when my friends say "Oh, I need to find a rich housband" ... I believe everyone should be self-supporting to feel secure. Secondly, I can't even imagine how people are able to spend their whole life with someone who they do not love. There is no explaination for that.
ReplyDeleteNowadays the sanctity of marriage is no longer excist because of all these cases.
You can call me behind the times but for me marriage is reserved for love:)
Marriage because of interests were the domain of the past and great houses. But the world is still ruled by money. Love is unfortunately not the only one purpose of getting married. I cannot understand that, and I think it is very immoral. The worst option for me is of course marriage just for money. I can understand in some way the point of view these people who did this for visa purpose. I also know the people who get marriage somehow of convience - because they were expecting a child.
ReplyDelete"I love you so much so I will get the goverment involved so you can't leave me" if you think about marriage this way it's really creepy... But benefits goverment gives married couples are nice, so maybe it's not creepy at all, but marriage should be reserved only for people who truly love each other, being with someone for other reasons makes those "couples" unhappy.
ReplyDeleteI think that life can be complicated sometimes and we cannot say anything like “I would never do that” unless we check it in real life. Therefore I will not say: “yes, I would definitely enter into a sham marriage” or “no, I would never marry anyone without true feeling.”
ReplyDeleteI would never get married to someone I didn’t want to. That is why I think that sham marriage is kind of stupid idea. Of course, there exist other cultures and other lifestyle than mine, but still – it is just irrational. I would feel everyday that I made a mistake if I would marry someone in the “sham” way.
ReplyDeleteIt's illogical to het married with someone who i don't intend to stay with. Love is one the beautiful thing in our stressed and difficult life. Fo some people it's kinda a spark of hope for a better life. We shouldn't waste time to be with someone who we truly don't adore.
ReplyDeleteI wouldn't take a sham marriage just for money. There's always risk that money would be expended. In that case I should divorced immediately. That's the proof the sham marriage is false and doesn't guarantee happiness to the end.
Funny. As for now, i know i would never agree on something like that, but when i was younger i was thinking about it haha (too many american movies). It just sounded like an easy way to be rich and buy pretty things. However, I think it's stupid and I have no idea why people do that.
ReplyDeleteThe issue of fake marriage is not only related to remote cultures or coutries like India. As Andrzej said, in Eurpean world this problem exists as well. People want to obtain nationalities of any European country, so they want to marry with europeans. Or in any other place in the World people get married for money or for fame. Actually, I can't imagine to marry with someone without love. Marriage is equal to love for me. Personally I don't know any example, but fore sure there is a lot.
ReplyDeleteI would never decide for temporary marriage. I got once such an offer (and I was offered a big amount of money) but I said determined "NO". It's better for me to stay single forever than live with a person I don't want to be.
ReplyDeleteI don’t think that i would be able to marrie someone that I didn’t intend to stay with, love matters for me. If I would like to earn serious money I would find a way to earn it. Some people get a fake marrige to cover that they are gay.
ReplyDeleteSham marriage looks like really frequent phenomenon. We all the time hear about new "Hollywood" couples or marriages only for money. But lots of them aren't truly for profits! Nowadays when we see young girl hitched with elder man we think that she want money and he want it because he can have "younger and sexier girl". I really don't like it!
ReplyDeleteAfter thinking about this question if I would marry someone only for money my answet is - no. I really can't do this! I'm girl who imagine my life with lovely husband and children. Maybe if I will really fall in love with this man then okay! Because it is love.
Sham marriages are really popular today. I think that the main reason why people do such things is money or opportunity to live in another country as in the case of a visa purpose. I think it’s ok if someone able to live in such way, if someone can live with somebody without love. But for me love is very important, and I hope I will never be in such a situation when I will need to marry someone just because lack of money or to change my nationality. It would be perfect if I marry a man I love.
ReplyDeleteI can imagine that I get married to someone I am not sure I will stay with. In my opinion the cases presented in the blog about Hollywood stars present a human attitude who lives the moment and doesn't think in the future. Sometimes you just want to do something crazy, feel you live, and you do irrational things, even if it is a marriage in Las Vegas.
ReplyDeleteI think I couldn't get married to someone I didn't know. It is quite scaring for me.
On the one side, I really can't understand, that some people want to be married only by the fact, that their horoscope advice them this. Despite this, I try to understand their choice and respect their belief. Anyway... for me it's completely nonsense. But... If I hadn't a boyfriend and I had a chance to marry a man to earn a quarter of a million dollars per day in the future (and he had known that I had wanted do it only for money - I hate lying...), it's possible, that I would agree. :D But I have a boyfriend and I prefer real love than such conspiracies. There isn't money to replace the sincere feelings.
ReplyDeleteFor me marriage is really important thing and if I will ever marry someone, it would definitely be because of love. I can't imagine getting married with someone just to obtain money or other benefits. I also wouldn't marry someone, only because my parents and relatives want it. People who getting married for fame and money must be really "poor" - I can only feel sorry about them.
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ReplyDeleteI don’t think I could marry someone who I’m not in love with. For me marriage is very important part of life. I can understand that some people get married because they need visa. Sometimes they have very hard and abyss situations. For example, they have to escape from their country because of war. It’s not easy to get a visa fast. It’s easier when you are married with a citizen of country. I think a marriage for money is the most stupid and awful thing. It tells me that people care only about money not about other person feelings. I don’t think I know more example of fake marriages, than the ones mentioned in presentation.
Marriage without love? .... It sounds terrible to me. I would not choose sham marriage even if I would make a million dollars a day. I can not imagine getting married for any reason other than feeling for a loved one. As far as I am able to try to understand people deciding to such a relationship because of obtaining citizenship or forced by the family, I can not do the same when they do it for money or fame. The prospect of spending the rest of our lives with a person who means nothing to us is horrible. Though many marriages that have loved each other before are parting today. However, I hope that such situations will be less and less and nobody will suffer because of unrequited love.
ReplyDeleteSo, when it comes to marriage it is really hard subject for me. I do not want to get married in the future, because I think when you love somebody you do not have to prove it on paper.Morover I can not imagine that I am married with person who I do not love. But when I would be alone all my life and have nothing to lose maybe I would decide to sham marriage if I would earn a quarter of a million dollars per day. As I said marriage for me is only formality. Nowadays you could divorse quickly without consequences. To be honest, I don't know another examples of sham marriage, but these in text I think good.
ReplyDeleteI think that lots of people get married without love. They focus on their private interest for example how to become rich without any effort. For me, getting married is a demonstration of love but not an easy way to achieve wealthy or become popular. I don’t understand people who marry for money or other material reason. I think that getting married because of the willing to stay in country is also illegal.
ReplyDeleteI believe that I would never marry someone for money or for any other purpose. I think that this behavior is simply stupid. I can not imagine spending the rest of the day with someone I do not love and lead an empty life surrounded only by money.
ReplyDeleteThere are popular TV shows in which volunteers come to where they get married with a person they do not know completely. They get big gratification for it, and then they divorce. Such a marriage is also something incomprehensible to me, and I think that one should not do reality reality from such things.
I would never do it. I hate those practises. For me it’s something disgusting, cheat the state, people or be only a product. Marriage is important part of our life, we promise that we will be forever togehter and I can’t image how people could do it. Money? Fame? I also wouldn’t shame marriage for money, I’m not for sale :) What concerns other fake marriages – like I’ve already said in last comment – I’m not into celebrities’ lives, so I don’t know any others. I’ve got idealistic view for it, I hope that all marriages will be only for love.
ReplyDeleteI would never get marriage without love and without plans to be with this person forever. What a stupid idea! People are capable of all to be a millionaire and it is sad that they don't have any qualm. I can't imagine so big con job only for money. Fortunately I have never heard about other examples of fake marriages. Maybe it isn't occur so often... I want to believe it.
ReplyDeleteI think that if someone agrees to such a system, there are no contraindications, nevertheless I would never agree to such a thing. I am not a romantic, but I believe that marriage should be a result of love, not a system, but I do not criticize when someone does something like that.
ReplyDeleteMarriage without fellings is the worst nightmare that can be. I will not ever undurstand why people decide to do something like that. For money? For how long you can live with money instead of with you partner, who should be your greatest love. I'm not a fanatic but in my opinion marriage is institution for a whole life. It is long term decision which should be only proof of love. Never in my life I would not do it for a money. Fortunately I dont know examples of false marraiges, excluding these for citizenship.
ReplyDeleteIn my opinion marriage with someone we don't love or with person we don't like at all is a nightmare. I'd rather be alone for whole life than sharing home, kissing, touching person I don't love, juz beacouse of money or tradition. I know some people have to do that - for example because of islamic tradition. For some people is a kind of lifestyle - like for playboy's bunnies. I cannot understand this kind of chose but I won't critisize anyone. Also I think a Lawender mariagge is very sad and can be very miserably for both of sides.
ReplyDeleteWell, arranged marriages were present on a daily basis ages ago. It was done only for money and for maintaining power. These days there are definitely numerous arranged marriages solemnized because of purposes mentioned above. However, I think people do not speak loduly about it. I think it is not anything pleasant to live with someone you do not know, you do not love.
ReplyDeleteIt's sorry to hear that people get married without love. I understand that it can be helpful sometimes, to for example get a visa or some other facilities. I think I wouldn't get married to someone I didn't intend to stay with or married a person who offer me earning a quarter of a million dollars per day. I think I just couldn't do that. I just think it has no sense to married someone who doesn't love you and when you don't love this person. I don't know any fake marriages but I know that in some cultures mariages are still arrange.
ReplyDeleteAll of the reasons of getting married presented in the text are unfortunately true. I think that people should not do it, becasue they will no be happy. Of course arrenged marriages were common in history, they were done for money, maintaining power or reconciling house.
ReplyDeleteI would not get married to someone I did not intend to stay with. It just does not make any sense. I think we are getting married because we love someone we want to spent rest of our life with that person and we want to set the family with that person.
I think I would not decide to sham marriage even if I could get that huge amount of money everyday.
I have heard about many examples of fake marriage because of money and visa purposes. But I do not know how these marriages ended.
Honestly I would decide to sham marriage if it was profitable but only when it wouldn't mean living together, it would be just formality, otherwise absolutely not. People are doing it not only for the money but also because people are very intolerant in some cultures, they stick to their own rules and traditions not seeing beyond them that's why, for instance a levander marriage for me is hardly surprising.
ReplyDeleteIn the past arrange marriage was something natural. Even my grandparents’ marriage was arranged by parents. I don’t know if they were happy because my granddad died when I was a little girl and my grandmother didn’t tell too much about her live. I think if a sham marriage for the money or some other reason is an agreement that both sides know and accept the terms before marriage, it can work successfully. Even love can come after some time… But there always will be the risk of finding the ‘real’ other half during the marriage…
ReplyDeleteI will never get married to someone I didn’t intend to stay with because I think it will lead to a life full of lies and unhappiness. Love is a tough subject and it’s the most important thing for me. Without people that love us our life would be very hard.
ReplyDeleteI can’t imagine being with someone just for money. Some people will do this but after all, they will be miserable and never truly happy because we can’t buy happiness.
I won't get married to someone I didn't intend to stay with,ofcourse sham marriage to earning a quarter of million dollars per day sounds invitingly, but I have to be famous to earn so much for fake married, and i don't want to be famous , so it is definitely not for me. Moreover if i will be famous it is a lots of different ways to earn money. Talking about married, which purpose is visa, I don't want to risk paying fine. For me money is not most important, the most important things for me is being healthy and happy and fake married don't give me that.
ReplyDeleteIt's very worrying how little value marriage presents. Nowadays for many it's like tool or maybe sometimes even punishment. Where and when has love disappeared? You can love without marriage - that's true - but it deepens the bonds! Why people forget about it? It only shows how people are more and more shallow in my opinion. Love as well as marriage is today just like a toy. Today it's funny, tommorow it's not so I throw it away? It's easier to sigh while watching romntic films than engage yourself in relationship? This reality really scares me sometimes.
ReplyDeleteIt is intriguing that some people get hitched because of religion, caste, reputation or horoscope. I strongly believe that marriage should be got providing that two people fall in love. Nevertheless, reality is different at times. Some people decide to do down the aisle in order to get visa and stay in the country legally or for such benefits as money. I definitely can tell that I would not get married to someone I did not intend to stay with. It is my belief that marriage should pair two people forever. That is not to say that I do not understand why some people decide to get sham marriage.
ReplyDeleteThe article is about sham marriage. The author explains some reasons for sham marriage. Sham marriage means fake marriage for some benefits. Especially in the world of celebrities, marriage is a rather loud case. But there are also other benefits explained in the text, such as marriage with visa purpose, marriage for money and attention, Hollywood marriage etc.
ReplyDeleteIn the world of celebrities sham marriage is a good option for making money. To my opinion it can be good option but only if all the purposes are legal. For example, I would not rather take risk by marrying a person for some benefits if it leads to problems with the law.
Earning a quarter of a million dollars per day is a very easy way for making money almost for nothing. It is mainly an option for celebrities but if I would be asked for such option, I think that I would rather agree if it does not lead to different problems with law etc.
To my mind, the most popular reason for sham marriage is getting a visa to different countries, especially to the most developed countries.
I am a Christian so for me there should be one marriage for all live, we should marry person who we love, who we want to spend the rest of our live with etc. On the other hand I totally understand that for unbelievers marriage is not so important and that is also a good occasion to make some money of just make life easier. A huge wedding, gorgeous dress, pictures on the covers of the most exclusive magazines plus quarter of million dollars per day of marriage? Good deal. I wonder why people don’t do it more often.
ReplyDeleteI think marriage would be taken more seriously if there were no divorce, or at least the process would be more difficult. Maybe than the marriage would be for love and partnership, not for business. And even if you would marry someone for money or other benefits, you will choose someone who you get along with.
To me, the only type of sham marriage that is terrible is the one that is arranged by the family. People who are in such positions really suffer. I'm very much against that, and I really hope there is something that can be done about it. But when it comes to 2 adult people making a rational decision to be together for some kind of profit?
ReplyDeleteWell, it's definitely not an ideal solution, but I understand that sometimes it can be beneficial. The only way it can be dealt with is by cutting the benefits that come from the marriage and/or making sure that the financial situation of the people is good or that immigration is easier, but these are not always possible. And the truth is that people will always use this system if it can help them to obtain citizenship in some country, escape poverty, violence, war or simply give them the platform to make their dreams come true. Unfortunately, the truth is, sometimes it can be the best option in their situation...
I know myself, I am not able to do such thing as fake marriage. I am not a very traditional person, but marriage is a big step, which should be taken only when you are going to marry person you love. Marry someone only for money, really? I don’t know how someone can do something like that, it is disgusting. When I hear or read about things like that, I lose faith in people.
ReplyDeleteI'm not a believing christian, nor have I ever thought about marriage seriously, so this is a little out of my sphere of thoughts. Call me heartless and beat me with a stick, but I believe that we shouldn't care who maries who and for what reason. As long as it was an agreement of both parties, means you both had your reasons to do it. To redeem my pragmatic statement however, I do believe that a wedding organied by third parties as well as marry-and-divorce practice for money, is in fact disgusting, cheap and low.
ReplyDeleteEven though I hate lies, scams and any actions made for public attention, I do have compassion on people getting married to get visa card. I believe government should rethink refugees' and emigrants' law to prevent situations like sham marriage. I don't know if I would be able to marry someone I don't know and love. But I can imagine that there are people who simply don't have another choice.
ReplyDeleteMarriage for a visa or a lavender marriage can be acceptable if the other side know about the real reason of that and nobody is hurts. The same situation is marriage for some benefits, money and fame if both side accept it and want this, why they couldn’t do that? Of course it is terrible if someone cheating the other person. Personally I can’t imagine get married for the other reason except love.
ReplyDeleteI believe that marriage is an important institution and it’s landmark in human’s life so they shouldn’t use it as the solution of their problems with money or law. Sham marriages are disrespectful and they only lower the significance of marriage which is in crisis today . I’m a Catholic and my point of view is based on my believes, but I think that you don’t have to be religious person to know that selling yourself isn’t something that you should be proud of. Because getting marriage for fame or money is nothing more than this. But this attitude to marriages isn’t that outrageous as the arranged marriages. These are violation of human rights and it’s disgusting that SO-CALLED parents can force their children to be wife or husband of someone that they don’t love or somethimes don’t even know. There are still some countries where underage girls marry adult men and their family consider this like something completely normal. I am so angry when I hear about this practice and I’m not able to look at it without disgust.
ReplyDeleteFor the first question I have to say no. I would not get marriage with someone I don't want to stay with. I think that it isn't ethical to make fake relationship (in fact without relationship). The istitution of marriage is for me to important to make such a thing. Maybe in some circumstances (I have got one personal example which I'll describe later) I would agree for such a proposition but I do not wonder the situation when I would offer something like this to anyone.
ReplyDeleteThe quarter of million per day sounds great but it is also in my opinion not ethical and I would have a problem to use money which I didn't earn myself.
I can describe the example I mentioned. One of my friends got the proposition from her boyfriend to get merriage in the reason of that it would give him a polish citizenship. He is Ukrainian and If he would not get the polish passport before his ukrainian passport's deadline he would have go to the Ukraine where he would be mobilized for military service and send for the front in Donbas.
I was wondering about it someday! I am not sure if I would say NO, but right now I do not want to get marry with a guy who I do not love. You know... I am a romantic soul, I really care about "butterflies" and all that stuff. I hate dating people I do not love, especially when I know it at the begining. For example - I hate when someone is paying for me, my food or drink. I do not feel comfortable with it. In the future I would like to earn a lot to feel good with my financials.
ReplyDeleteFortunately for me I do not have to think about fake marriage but I know that people do it for different reasons. In my opinion the most popular fake marriage in Poland is that due to visa which people from other countries want to extend or maybe to get citizenship. But personally I do not dream of this kind of wife...
ReplyDeleteI couldn't get married with person who I would not intend to stay and I couldn't get married only to earn money because love is one of the most important values in my life. Being myself and live in consonance with my values gives me happiness. It must be really hard from psychological side of view to be with someone who we do not love, because it must be frustrating. It is really upseting that people do not attach much importance to love and do such things as these presented above.
ReplyDeleteIn my opinion nowadays people often pretend something or do things to meet the social requirements. So why, unfortunately idea of fake marriage is not something surprised me. Although i am not very traditional person i treat marriage seriously, like really big deal, step of your life. Although this text which is showing how many reasons why people contain a sham marriage, i believe in ceremonies because of true love. Marriage just for benefits like money or attention is ridiculous for me, but i also realize that sham marriage (irrelevant for reasons) would be very hard.
ReplyDeleteEven though I don't really feel like marriage is as important ans]d serious as it's said to be, I would never fake marry anyone, simply out of fear of getting caught. But I guess anyones morality could be bought with quarter milion dollars a day. I do not really know any real examples of fake marriages, and the only thing that comes to my mind when I think of it, is the movie called 'The proposal', where Sandra Bullock's character has to marry an American to be able to stay and work in the US
ReplyDeleteNowadays a lot of people marry someone just for money. For me getting married to someone that you don't love is irrational, but I don't want to judge people who are doing this because it is their choice.
ReplyDeleteAn arranged marriage is indeed illegal, but if I had to marry a man only because of a visa, for example, I think I would. It all depends on what situation I'd find myself in.
ReplyDeleteI'm glad that arranged marriages exist no more in Poland. I can't imagine how parents, prists or someone else would choose for us partners for life, partners who we barely now! Sham marriage is something that can help both sides, I don't know if I would go for it but I don't find it a terrible idea. If somebody is short of money and the other person needs asylum, it may be be helpful as well as profitable for both of them. For me marriage is rather type of official bond and it doesn't tell much about a relationship between people.
ReplyDeleteFictitious marriages are common in our lives. Unfortunately, this is considered normal in most cases, because to deceive the state for their own purposes is a good way to circumvent some of them without breaking the law. Maybe these are old customs, but I believe that marriage should be exclusively for love. Mutual and happy.
ReplyDeleteI feel that arranged marriage is a mistake. No one should force to this kind of things because it is a decision for all life. I hope that we will have much less sham marriage in the future.
ReplyDeleteFrom my point of view we can never tell with being 100% sure what would we do in some situations. However, I can't imagine being married to someone that I don't love. Moreover, I don't think that any money would convince me to be in a sham marriage.
ReplyDeleteI feel like the fact that people in order to live in a certain country have to marry someone without any feelings is quite sad. Marrying someone just to be able to live a decent life sounds like something that shouldn't happen in XXI century. Similarly to arranged marriages, it's really surprising to me that they are still happening nowadays. Being forced to live with someone I don't have any feelings for sounds very depressing.
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